Monday, November 17, 2008
On the 15th, i went over to hubby's place for Ady's 40th day tahlil. Actual plan was hubby's parents invited my parents to join along and at the same time to discuss about our relationship. However, there were storm in a cup and the whole family was very chaotic after what my dad argued with his dad. I don't give a damn and i just continue helping our the feast. I don't wish to blog out what my dad said to hubby's dad, but what is flickering in my mind was when dad confessed that Ady is not his grandchild.
Waited for few hours but none of my family members came. I don't wish to go home so i sleepover at hubby's crib. Futhermore, the kitchen was in a mess and i helped out till late. The next day, i went home at about 7pm. I saw my parents in a few blocks away but i ran away from them. When no one was there, i went up to my house as i was very super tired. To my surprised, when my parents left, they locked up the gate using the bicycle chain. Very good. Luckily hubby was still downstairs. Then i received a msg from my mum that my dad, my 2 uncles and dad's bestfriend were going to hubby's place. We quickly rushed to his place again.
Hubby went in first as i waited for Yayah at the staircase. While waiting, i heard their conversation in the phone. When Yayah arrived, lite a stick for a while and then we went in. My dad was in total silence compared to the day before when he acted big to their family. Throughout the meeting, my second uncle was the only one who do the talking. Im lazy to elaborate so long, but the final decision was, both parties agreed on settling both of us together. Which means, we will nikah whenever we are ready. There will be no barriers from them and they can't stop us from seeing each other.
So for now, we will taking up the khusus rumahtangga first. When everything has settled then we will proceed with the nikah. I can't tell when will our nikah date be, but the latest will be in January 2009, and the earliest shall be before Christmas this year. When we left, dad apologised to hubby's father.(Wakakakaka!!!!) The rest of his relatives gave me a pat on my shoulder and advised me not to think too much as everything were fine now. They wanted us to settled as soon as possible so that nothing will happen again.
On the other hand, my grandma knew everything already. Everything from the start. After the meeting we went to nenek house back and i saw her eyes were teary and she had no voice. She was feeling unwell at that time. I thought she's gonna nag at me but i was told from my aunty that my grandma put the blame on my parents especially my dad. After the long scoldings from my grandma to my dad, grandma was the one insisted my dad to go to hubby's place to discuss about the marriage.
So everything are fine now between both parties and i hope everything will go on smoothly..
